Practical traction after a hard hit—field notes and tools for rebuilding without performative positivity
If you are in danger or feel unsafe, please stop reading and prioritize your safety first. Reach out to emergency services, a crisis line, a trusted person, or a local support resource right away. Disclaimer: This post is reflective and educational, not professional mental health advice. If you are dealing with coercion, threats, repeated lying, … Continue reading The Pause Between Trigger and Reaction
Disclaimer: This post is for reflection and support, not diagnosis, treatment, or crisis care. If you are in immediate danger, call local emergency services. If you are thinking about self-harm, contact a crisis line in your area right away. Somewhere along the line, I lost all respect for the kind of person who can watch … Continue reading The Boot Heel and the Breaking Point
If you are in the middle of a collapse right now, this is for you: surviving the first stretch matters. Even if all you have done is keep the lights on, answer one more call, send one more résumé, make one more payment, or get through one more day without folding, that counts. Do not … Continue reading Four months out, Still Standing
Disclaimer: This post is for education and reflection, not diagnosis or treatment. The tools and frameworks referenced here are practical SOTL tools unless explicitly stated otherwise. If you are in immediate danger, call local emergency services. If you are thinking about self-harm, contact a crisis line in your area right away. Reader’s Moment Maybe you … Continue reading Keeping the Voice Without Losing the Ground
Disclaimer: This post is for education and reflection, not diagnosis or treatment. “Shame Ledger” and “Evidence Ledger” are SOTL tools, not clinical terms. Complex PTSD is a formal diagnosis in ICD-11 and should be assessed by a qualified professional. If you are in immediate danger, call local emergency services. If you are thinking about self-harm, … Continue reading When Shame Keeps the Books
Disclaimer: This post is for education and reflection, not diagnosis or treatment. “Survival mode” is everyday language, not a clinical diagnosis. PTSD and complex PTSD are formal clinical constructs that should be assessed by a qualified professional.1 2 If you are in immediate danger, call local emergency services. If you are thinking about self-harm, contact … Continue reading When Survival Mode Outlives the Danger
Today, Standing on the Ledge, I’m borrowing a line from a meme page — Minions World — and yeah, I know. The internet is full of “motivation” that’s really just dopamine dressed up as wisdom. I’ve been getting hammered with reels lately from the usual suspects, and I scroll past most of them fast because … Continue reading When Everyone Else Got a Map
Hey there, Standing on the Ledge. Today’s reflection comes from a passage attributed to Katie Kamara, and I will admit, there is something in it that rings true. “Unpopular truth. Overthinking often blocks the very opportunities you were meant to take.” That idea has weight. There are times in life when too much thinking does … Continue reading When Overthinking Becomes Another Way to Stay Stuck
Hi again, Standing on the Ledge. How are we now? Yesterday’s post — The Kid With the Kleenex — I wrestled with it. I’m still wrestling with it. Part of me wants to take it down. I don’t want to be reminded of who that kid was. I don’t want the label, the stigma, the … Continue reading When the Old Label Comes Back
Hello there, Standing on the Ledge. How are you now? I’m in a reflective mood today. And I keep circling the same question: who is this “Lugh / Kevin” guy supposed to be? What’s he actually about? If I’m going to give any context at all, I have to start where my story feels like … Continue reading The Kid With the Kleenex
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