Establishing Timeline

Last updated: January 30, 2026.

Establishing Timeline: Kevin McLaughlin (aka Lugh “Lou” Sulian)

This is my working timeline — a way to reduce time distortion, patch memory gaps, and stop rebuilding my life from scattered fragments. It’s built from what I’ve already published. Some dates are exact. Some are “best guess.” Where things get blurry, I say so.

1) Names, Roles, and the Frame I’m Writing From

  • Kevin McLaughlin — my “muggle” name. 2
  • Lugh Sulian (often said as “Lou” Sulian) — my craft/working name; I’ll answer to either. 2
  • What “Lugh Sulian” means (in this project) — a working name for a working moment: skill, clarity, responsibility, and sight. 6
  • Project posture — “field journal from the threshold,” not myth reenactment, not spiritual bypass, not curated healing. 6

2) The Early “Grand Resets” (Foundational Turning Points)

These are the pivot points that shaped my nervous system, my role patterns, and how I respond when a structure collapses.

  • Right before fourteen (date not pinned) — placed in foster care. A system shift: home, safety, identity, footing. 1
  • January 25, 1985 — my brother Steve died. Grief didn’t just hurt; it reorganized the household and my trajectory, including school traction. 1
  • Mid-high-school years (sequence noted, dates not pinned) — school-board reshuffle: bounced between two local high schools, disruption stacked on disruption. 1
  • Age 18 (date not pinned) — first real freedom: bought a motorcycle; first real summer job as dishwasher/line cook at Wilderness Tours. 1
  • August long weekend, best guess: August 1988 — motorcycle accident. After that, my timeline goes blurry: memory gaps, missing years, dates that won’t line up cleanly. 1
  • After the crash (dates not pinned) — injuries and constraints changed what was possible; “the road not taken” became real: OSAP support refused, finances blocked, and the track that could have happened… didn’t. 1
  • Same period — inheritance money connected to Steve’s death became transportation (1978 Monte Carlo) and a role-pattern: when I have a tool, I become useful — sometimes too useful. 1

3) Pagan Identity Timeline (Lugh and Kevin)

  • Late 1990s — involved around the Pagan community (early years more “in the closet,” so to speak). 2
  • February 5, 2012 — “Lugh Sulian” first appears (confirmed via Facebook). Created for privacy during a relationship ending and to separate public/private life. 3
  • Years after — Lugh becomes my identity in Pagan spaces; Kevin stays present in the rest of life. Different shells, same person. 3
  • Around October 2018 — left a job I’d had for seven years and began stepping away from Pagan community life; it took about a year to fully step back. 3
  • Brighid as a turning point (date not pinned) — introduced to St. Brighid via a Juniper Birch ritual that “forever changed my path.” 2

4) The Rebuild Years (Skills, Work, and the Rubble-to-Traction Arc)

  • Fall 2022 — started taking online college courses; slowly building a social-psychologist background. 2
  • Midwinter 2022/23 — started a small commercial cleaning business. 2
  • October 2023 — landed a second contract. 2
  • October 9, 2025 — reclaimed personal time; took up 3D printing; a Flashforge AD5X multicolor printer arrived “two weeks ago.” 5
  • December 15, 2025 — loss of a contract: the immediate collapse that triggered Standing on the Ledge as a tool for surviving the drop. 1
  • December 21, 2025 — announced the new blog: Standing on the Ledge. 4
  • January 2026 — the project solidifies into a reader-facing structure: grief + systems + rebuilding integrity, written as a field journal (not a lecture). 6 7

5) The Lens I’m Using (Sociological + Psychological)

I’m not writing this as a performance. I’m writing it as orientation: a way to connect “private trouble” to real conditions, and to rebuild continuity when memory and stress fragment the story.

  • Life-course “turning points” — moments that don’t just change scenery; they change direction. 1
  • Role pressure and role loss — when a role collapses, the self shakes. That’s not drama; that’s structure. 7
  • Narrative integration — taking scattered experiences and building a story I can live inside without drowning in it. 1
  • “Rubble work” as identity — I speak for the ones rebuilding after the fall: ledge-walker, rubble-riser, turning scars into fuel. 8

6) Known Gaps (On Purpose)

Some eras are still “chunky.” That’s not a moral failure — it’s a known limitation, especially around the post-accident years. This timeline stays honest by marking blanks instead of inventing certainty.

  • Post-accident years: missing years, fuzzy sequence, dates that don’t lock.
  • Exact dates for early events: some are anchored (like January 25, 1985); others remain “age-based” until I pin them.

7) Template: How I Add New Entries (So This Stays Clean)

  • Date / Range: (exact or “best guess”)
  • Event: what happened (one paragraph, no courtroom)
  • What changed: role / identity / resources / relationships
  • What it taught me: one sentence
  • Evidence / anchor: a name, a place, a document, a photo, a post

Footnotes (Source Posts)

  1. Standing on the Ledge — “Grand Resets: The Pivot Points That Built Me” (January 29, 2026). Source ↩︎
  2. Unplugged Pagan — “About Me” (includes name usage, Pagan background, Brighid, courses starting Fall 2022, business start Midwinter 2022/23, second contract October 2023). Source ↩︎
  3. Unplugged Pagan — “From Lugh to Kevin: My Evolving Identity Story” (January 29, 2026). Source ↩︎
  4. Unplugged Pagan — “New Site” (December 21, 2025). Source ↩︎
  5. Unplugged Pagan — “New Hobby” (October 9, 2025). Source ↩︎
  6. Standing on the Ledge — “About” (project framing and definition of the working name). Source ↩︎
  7. Standing on the Ledge — “Reader’s Guide” (how the project frames grief, systems, and rebuilding). Source ↩︎
  8. Unplugged Pagan — “Rebuilding from the Rubble, Standing on the Ledge” (tagline). Source ↩︎