Day 10

Before we get into today, I want you to take a breath with me.
Just one.
In… and out.

Because if you’re here right now, watching this, listening to this,
there’s a reason.
Maybe you’re tired.
Maybe you’re overwhelmed.
Maybe life feels like a stack of unstable Jenga blocks
and you’re afraid the next nudge will send it all crashing.

Whatever brought you here—
you made it to Day 10.
That’s not nothing.
That’s not small.
That’s not “just another day.”
That’s you choosing to keep showing up
in a world that doesn’t make that choice easy.

So let’s talk today.
Honestly.
Quietly.
Like two people standing on the same ledge,
looking at the same mess,
trying to figure out what comes next.




Hey…
So I want to start by acknowledging yesterday —
because Day 9 was rough.
Raw.
Unfiltered.
My brain was a runaway train and I didn’t bother to pull the brake.
And honestly?
That kind of honesty has its place.
It needed to be said.

But today… today has a different weight.
Not lighter, just steadier.
Like I’m still standing on the ledge,
but the wind isn’t trying to knock me off anymore.
I can finally see the outline of the ground below,
see shapes in the rubble
instead of just chaos and debris.

And I want to talk to the people who woke up today
and still made it here —
even if “making it” just means getting out of bed,
putting on clothes,
or remembering to breathe.
Because I know this season — this holiday pressure cooker —
it demands joy from people who barely have energy left.
It asks you to be present
when you’re just trying to stay intact.

So if you’re functioning at half-capacity
but giving everything that half has —
you’re doing more than most people will ever understand.

And here’s something that ties in —
something C. Wright Mills talked about:
the sociological imagination.
The idea that what feels like a personal struggle
is often tied to bigger forces shaping the world around you.

Meaning:
you’re not broken.
You’re not the problem.
You’re reacting to a world that’s off-balance,
a society that’s stretched thin,
a system that keeps asking for more
while giving less.

Sometimes what feels like a “you issue”
is really a world issue
falling into your lap.

And that’s why—
when people try to motivate others with fear?
When they push, threaten, guilt, intimidate,
believing fear will spark productivity?
It hits even harder.

Because fear-based motivation isn’t just ineffective —
it’s morally flawed.
It treats people like machines,
like they’re only valuable when they’re scared.
It reduces human effort to escape routes and punishment avoidance.

And it’s terrible judgment.
Fear doesn’t build loyalty.
Fear doesn’t build trust.
Fear doesn’t build anything that lasts.

Fear builds silence.
Fear builds resentment.
Fear builds compliance —
not commitment.

Anyone can scare someone into moving.
But it takes a leader —
a real one —
to inspire people to build.

And if someone is trying to use fear on you?
Understand this clearly:
the issue is their leadership,
not your worth.

Because fear never helped anyone rebuild.
Fear never cleared the mental noise.
Fear never made the ledge more stable
or the path more certain.

What does help?
Small moments of courage.
Tiny acts of honesty.
Choosing truth over panic.
Choosing patience over pressure.
Choosing to take the next real step
even when you don’t feel ready.

Rebuilding is not dramatic.
It’s not cinematic.
It’s not some motivational crescendo.
Rebuilding is slow.
Uneven.
Deeply personal.

People won’t see the small victories —
the quiet wins.
The times you showed up anyway.
The times you didn’t shut down.
The times you kept going
even though the world felt tilted.

But those moments matter.
Those moments are the climb.

You don’t escape the rubble in one grand leap.
You rise out of it in inches,
in breaths,
in decisions you make
at the exact moment you want to give up.

And maybe that’s the real heart of Day 10:

You don’t need to feel strong to be strong.
You don’t need to feel ready to start.
You don’t need to have it all figured out
to take the next honest step.

Step by shaky step,
you turn rubble into ground,
ground into path,
path into momentum.

That’s rebuilding.
That’s living.
That’s standing on the ledge
and choosing forward anyway.

And tomorrow?
We keep climbing.


Outro

Before I go, I want you to hear this in a way that lands:

Progress isn’t loud.
Healing isn’t obvious.
Strength isn’t always roaring and powerful.

Sometimes strength is the quiet, exhausted whisper of,
“Okay… one more day. I can try again tomorrow.”

And if that’s where you are right now —
that’s enough.
That’s more than enough.

So take today for what it is:
a step.
Not the whole journey.
Not the finish line.
Just one solid step forward
from the place you were yesterday.

And tomorrow?
I’ll meet you there.
On the ledge.
Still climbing.
Still rebuilding.
Still moving toward something better
one breath at a time.

Day 9

Hey.
If you’re here with me on Day 9, that means something important:
you’ve lived through more than you ever thought you could…
and somehow, you’re still showing up.

Today isn’t about the collapse.
It isn’t about the first steps out of it.
Today is about the ledge—the honest place between what fell apart and what you’re trying to build next.

And standing here, I’m realizing something I didn’t want to admit out loud:

Setbacks aren’t exceptions.
They’re part of the rhythm.
Part of the rebuild.
Part of climbing out of a life that shifted faster than you could prepare for.

And today… I hit one.

Not a dramatic crash.
Not some big breakdown.
Just that quiet, heavy moment where the ground feels thin again—
where you stop and think,
“Okay… what now?”

For a long time, I treated setbacks like personal failures.
Like proof I wasn’t strong enough, smart enough, disciplined enough.
I’d change plans just to feel like I had a direction.
I’d call movement “progress” even when it was just me trying to outrun my own discomfort.
I’d make choices out of panic and pretend they were strategy.

But here, on Day 9, standing in the same dust, same air, same lingering ache—
I noticed something different:

This setback didn’t send me spiraling.
It made me still.

It made me listen.

Because real change…
the kind that actually shifts your life…
can’t just be motion.
It has to mean something.
It has to point somewhere.
Otherwise, it’s just noise wearing the mask of progress.

And this time, the setback didn’t say “stop.”
It said “look again.”
“Rethink.”
“Realign.”
It reminded me that rebuilding isn’t about speed—
it’s about intention.

So here’s where I am today:

No panic.
No rushing into the next idea just to feel productive.
No pretending I have it all figured out.

Just clarity.
Just a moment on the ledge.
Just the understanding that starting over doesn’t require perfection—
it requires purpose.

And maybe that’s what healing looks like now.
Not dramatic breakthroughs.
Not sudden victories.
But noticing when the old patterns show up…
and choosing not to follow them this time.

Because I’m not chasing change anymore.
I’m choosing it.

I’m choosing the kind of change that stays.
The kind that supports the person I’m becoming—
not the person I was desperately trying to hold together.

So yeah…
Day 9.
Still in the rubble.
Still figuring it out.
Still meeting myself where I actually am, not where I wish I was.

But here’s the truth that makes today different:

I didn’t break at the setback.
I adjusted.
I stayed.
I kept going.

And as long as I’m here—
breathing, thinking, choosing—
the rebuild continues.